I’m sure that I will not be that popular with the ladies for today’s post. I’m okay with that, as I’ve never been popular, so that’s something I’m incredibly comfortable with.
I ran across a post today on FB that firmly stated, “Men are weak, they’ll destroy a female beyond their breaking point and she’ll still be willing to fix it and hold you down. But once you hurt a man they give up entirely, men can’t handle pain like a woman.”
“...watch the movie, Steel Magnolias, this is precisely what that movie is about.”
Initially, I only “liked” the picture and moved on with my day. Quietly, meditating that led into contemplating what my day would look like. After rubbing my pained sacrum (I must get bodywork done as my back and hands are not at it’s peak.), I mindlessly picked up my phone and there were notifications and messages awaiting me.
I’d received a notification that someone commented on the picture that I’d liked earlier. The first comment came from a gentleman that poignantly and minimally responded with, “False” the next comment came from a woman that believes, “This goes both ways”.
“In my line of work, men break quickly, and can’t tolerate the amount of pain that all of my clients that are women can.” -K. J Jones
I’ve encountered many people in one of my lines of work and in my due diligence and research, I’ve learned that men’s pain tolerance is far lower than my women clientele. I, often share this with women during our sessions, for the sake of empowering them. Now, this post isn’t in any way some, man-bashing rant, as I believe men serve an incredible purpose and their strengths lies in other arenas. It does make sense to me though, that women can tolerate more pain, as we’re the ones that give birth and most (not all) men don’t posses the sea legs it takes, to go into the deep and oftentimes, turbulent waters of child-birth with us.
For many years, men have been revered for their sexuality, braun (one could certainly attach a high-pain tolerance to braun--I see that connection as I write this), intelligence and problem solving skills. But, I’ve never known a part of history that boasted, touted nor bled the pages of history books about men’s incredible, emotional depth; if I’m incorrect, please point me in the right direction.
"What is this incessant belief that we should do everything that men do?" - snippet of Healthy, Independence
My belief is, the more that we got away from finding strength in being emotional and nurturing and ultimately, loving; and the more we immersed ourselves in “success” our goals and fighting to become “equal” to men, the more things spiraled out of control. Hence, current day chaos and madness.
Science has long proven that our brains can only FOCUS on one thing at a time, which starkly negates the corporate world of “multi-tasking”. If women (lots - most) are focused on becoming a success and expanding upon their successes, something(s) major definitely goes undernourished and imbalanced. There’s an old saying that I’ll paraphrase, “If there’s a woman at the top of her game in the workplace, her house is a mess.” Another one goes something like, “show me an ambitious person and I’ll show you an early grave.” Usually, a women’s household falls apart while she’s on her ambitious trek to success and “just one more accolade”.
A while back, I spoke to a wildly successful, grown-ass woman that was also enlightened and nurturing and firm and her own boss and loving and a ball-buster. One of the things she left me with, that I shall never forget is, that intoxicating elixir that she, with great awareness allowed to escape her lips; like osmosis, she transferred a resonating serum into me by saying, “A woman can have everything she wants in her lifetime. She just can’t have it all at the same time.”
I’ve learned this to be true. Especially, if you want to focus on doing an amazing job at whatever it is your heart and emotional depth has moved you to do.
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